A MARRIED woman, unsubmitted, is dangerous.
Not because she is weak…
but because she is powerful.
There are certain words that don’t just sit quietly.
They demand a reaction.
The word “Submit” is one of them.
That's why it causes a tension anytime we go there.
Not because people don’t understand the dictionary definition…
but because of what they’ve seen it turned into.
Control.
Silence.
Endurance without voice.
So when you hear it defined as:
to allow another person to have authority over you
it can feel like surrendering power in the worst way.
Like agreeing to disappear.
But Scripture doesn’t speak to a powerless woman.
It speaks to a powerful one.
“A wise woman builds her house…” (Proverbs 14:1)
Why a woman?
Because there is a kind of influence a married woman carries in her home that is hard to replicate.
Not always loud.
Not always visible.
But deeply felt.
She can set the tone without announcing it.
She can shift the atmosphere without saying much.
She can create warmth… or tension… without trying.
And Scripture does not ignore that.
It names it.
Not to flatter her…
but to make her aware of her power.
Because the same woman who can build a home…
can also tear it down.
“With her own hands.”
So when the Bible calls a married woman to submit,
it is not trying to reduce her.
It is trying to direct her.
Because power without alignment is not neutral.
It becomes destructive.
I will say it again: A married woman, unsubmitted, is dangerous.
The danger shows up quietly like:
A constant resistance to being led.
A need to always have the final say.
A posture that questions everything but trusts nothing.
A subtle undermining that erodes respect over time.
A withdrawal that replaces connection with control.
Not because she is trying to destroy her home…
but because she is operating from a place where her strength has no guardrails.
And strength without guardrails can wreck what it was meant to protect.
Submission is not about agreeing with everything.
It is not about losing your voice.
It is not about pretending something is right when it isn’t.
It is about posture.
A posture that says,
“I will not use my strength against what I am called to build.”
A posture that understands that not every disagreement needs to become a battle.
That not every instinct needs to be enforced.
That not every moment requires control.
1 Peter 3:1 speaks to this in a way that is easy to miss.
"In the same way, you wives must accept the authority of your husbands. Then, even if some refuse to obey the Good News, your godly lives will speak to them without any words. They will be won over."
It talks about influence that does not rely on constant words…
but on a posture that carries weight.
Not silence as suppression…
but restraint as strength.
Because there is a kind of power that shouts…
and there is a kind that shapes.
This is not about becoming small.
It is about becoming intentional.
Because the question is not whether you have influence.
You do.
The question is how you are using it.
Are you building with it?
Or are you slowly tearing things down with the same hands that were meant to strengthen it?
Submission, in its truest form, is not weakness.
It is power… brought under control.
And when a powerful wife learns that…
she doesn’t lose herself.
She becomes someone who can be trusted with what she has been given.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
No comments:
Post a Comment