It grows downward too.
At the same time.
While you’re admiring the height…
something else is happening where you can’t see.
Roots are pushing into the ground.
Breaking through resistance.
Finding water in hidden places.
Doing the work… in the dark.
And that downward growth?
That’s where stability is built.
That’s where strength is formed.
That’s what makes the fruit possible.
Because the part everyone celebrates…
is sustained by the part no one sees.
And that is totally relatable in marriage.
Everyone loves the visible parts.
The smiles.
The pictures.
The moments that look like everything is working.
That’s the “upward” growth.
The fruit.
But what sustains that?
Is rarely visible.
The hard conversations.
The apologies that cost your pride.
The patience when it’s inconvenient.
The discipline to stay engaged when it would be easier to withdraw.
That’s the downward growth.
It’s not glamorous.
It’s not posted.
It’s not always appreciated in the moment.
But it’s necessary.
Because if a tree grows upward…
without growing downward…
it won’t stand.
All it takes is pressure.
A strong wind.
A difficult season.
And what looked impressive…
is exposed as unstable.
A marrriage can have the appearance of something strong…
But if there is no depth...
no rootedness...
no unseen work being done…
it won’t hold.
The Bible tells us in Colossians 2:7,
“Let your roots grow down into Him, and let your lives be built on Him.”
Roots first.
Before the building.
Before the visible structure.
Because what is rooted…
can withstand.
We all prefer the upward growth.
We want the results.
The ease.
The fruit.
But fewer people are committed
to the downward work.
The humility.
The correction.
The consistency in the unseen.
But we cannot skip that part.
Because, just like a tree, what grows in the light…
is sustained by what was built in the dark.
It's not really about what is showing in amarriage
It’s what is being built beneath it
Because over time…
the roots will be tested.
And when they are…
everything above will depend on everything below.
Marriage doesn’t just grow in what people can see.
It grows in what you are willing to do
when no one is watching.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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