During dating, you experience your partner in small doses.
A few hours here.
A dinner there.
A phone call at night.
A weekend visit.
Those small doses create anticipation.
You look forward to the next time you will see them.
You miss them before the evening is even over.
You replay conversations.
You notice little things.
Temporary exposure adds excitement.
It’s easy to fall in love under those conditions.
But marriage changes the rhythm.
Now you see each other every day.
Morning faces.
Unfinished conversations.
Bad moods.
Bills.
Laundry.
Life.
The mystery of distance is replaced by the reality of proximity.
And just like that, the relationship enters a new phase.
Falling in love was easy.
Staying in love becomes the work.
And here’s the part many people misunderstand.
It is your job to stay in love with your spouse.
Not theirs.
Of course love should be mutual.
Of course effort should be shared.
But responsibility begins with you.
If you wait for your spouse to create the atmosphere of love, you may be waiting longer than necessary.
Love in marriage requires intention.
Think about the things that made you fall in love.
The laughter.
The curiosity.
The playfulness.
The attention.
The excitement of discovering each other.
Those things don’t disappear automatically.
They fade when they are no longer nurtured.
Marriage needs maintenance.
Every couple will fight.
Every couple will disagree.
Every couple will experience seasons of tension.
But tension should not be the only story your marriage tells.
Let there be fun too.
Let there be bonding.
Let there be shared jokes.
Let there be moments that remind you why you chose each other in the first place.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 says:
“Enjoy life with the wife whom you love.”
Enjoyment is not accidental.
It is cultivated.
Date nights.
Walks.
Conversations without distractions.
Small surprises.
Shared experiences.
These things protect love from becoming purely functional.
Because marriages rarely fall apart overnight.
They drift apart gradually.
Two people becoming busy.
Two people becoming tired.
Two people forgetting to create moments that bring them closer.
The goal is not to avoid every disagreement.
The goal is to make sure joy still lives in the relationship.
Fight if you must.
But laugh too.
Work through problems.
But build memories too.
Because falling in love may happen naturally…
But staying in love is something you choose to practice.
Every day.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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