and I have been thinking about Judas...yes! The same one.
And not just what he did…
but what he saw.
He walked with Jesus.
Not from a distance.
He had a front row seat.
He saw everything firsthand.
He saw five loaves and two fish feed thousands.
He saw a man walk on water like it was nothing.
He heard storms go quiet at this man's command.
He watched the sick get up, the blind see, the dead breathe again… even one who had died for four days.
He saw all of that.
And still…
thirty pieces of silver?
Exodus 21:32 puts that number in perspective.
That was the compensation price for a slave gored by an ox.
I allowed that to sink in for a moment, and then I wondered...
How do you witness that kind of power, that kind of presence…
and still reduce it to something so small?
How do you stand that close to something extraordinary…
and treat it like it’s ordinary?
And then, quietly, my thought shifted.
Away from Judas.
Closer to home.
Because this isn’t just about the mother of all betrayals, as recorded in Scripture.
It’s about something more subtle that happens in real life.
In marriage.
Not many people will trade their spouse for thirty pieces of silver (I hope not).
But we do something else.
We trivialize what we’ve been given.
We get used to it.
We become familiar with it.
And familiarity, if you’re not careful…
has a way of shrinking value.
The same person you once prayed for…
can become the person you start to overlook.
The very voice that once comforted you…
can become background noise.
The same presence that once felt like a gift…
can start to feel… expected.
Normal.
And slowly, without saying it out loud,
you begin to treat something valuable… like it’s common.
Hebrews 13:4 says,
“Marriage should be honored by all…”
Because honor is what protects value.
But when honor fades,
small trades begin to happen.
We trade attention… for distraction.
We trade patience… for irritation.
We trade presence… for convenience.
We trade intentional love… for routine.
It happens slowly...
not in one big decision...
in small, repeated ones.
Think about it for a minute:
Are there ways you are “trading” your spouse…
not for money…
but for things that don’t even compare?
A screen.
A habit.
A moment of ease.
Your own comfort.
Ouch!
It wasn't meant to sting tho...
It’s about awareness.
Because no one wakes up and decides,
“I’m going to devalue my marriage today.”
But it starts...
in the space where gratitude is replaced by assumption.
We know he was kinda destined to do it
But still...
Judas didn’t suddenly decide Jesus had no value.
Something must have changed in him over time.
Something in how he saw Him.
Something in what he prioritized.
And that’s what makes this personal.
Because the danger in marriage is not always betrayal.
Sometimes…
it’s becoming so used to your spouse
that you forget what you actually have.
Before you ask:
“Would I ever betray my spouse?”
Ask
“Am I still honoring their value…
or have I started treating them like something I can afford to overlook?”
Because what you fail to honor,
you will eventually mishandle.
And what you mishandle,
you slowly diminish.
And sometimes, the restoration doesn’t start with grand gestures.
It starts with seeing again.
Seeing clearly.
Seeing freshly.
Seeing your spouse…
not as familiar…
but as valuable.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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