The Seasoning Illusion

I saw a video recently that made me laugh...and think.

A man was cooking dinner and asked his wife to taste the food to see if it was good.

She took a spoonful, immediately made a face, and started pulling out every seasoning from the cupboard. Salt, curry, thyme, you name it.

He watched quietly, then pretended to add them.

A few seconds later, he handed her the same spoonful...same food, no change.

She tasted it again and smiled.

“Now that’s better,” she said. “Perfect. Can I have more?”

Same food. 

Same flavor. 

The only thing different was her sense of involvement.

It made me think of the things we do in marriage.

How often do we believe that things can’t turn out right unless we’re the ones who “added our touch”?

How often do we dismiss our spouse’s efforts because it didn’t go our way; didn’t follow our recipe, didn’t carry our seasoning?

Sometimes, what we call “standards” is just pride wearing perfume.

There’s a subtle arrogance in thinking our way is the only way good can happen.

It’s the quiet voice that says, “If I didn’t do it, it won’t be right.”

But here’s the thing...playing along, even when it’s not our way, is a form of honor.

When your spouse takes initiative, even if it’s imperfect, sometimes the kindest thing you can do is smile, taste, and say,

“It’s good.”

In marriage, not everything needs correction. Some things just need celebration.

The Bible says in Romans 12:10 (NLT)

“Love each other with genuine affection, and take delight in honoring each other.”

The flip side, there is also honor in the restraint...more honor

It’s in the spouse who knows the truth but decides not to say,

“I didn’t add anything.”

They just smile and let peace have the last word.

Because not every truth needs to be announced.

Some are better served quietly...like food that tastes just fine without more seasoning.

That kind of restraint is its own form of love.

It’s the humility that says, “I don’t have to prove I’m right to enjoy being together.”

It’s the gentleness that keeps small moments from becoming big arguments.

It’s the wisdom that remembers: winning the moment can lose the marriage.

Sometimes, the most loving thing you can do is to let your spouse believe the seasoning made a difference... 

when in reality, it was your patience that did

The real seasoning in any home isn’t curry, paprika, salt, or thyme...it’s honor.

And when that’s added, everything tastes better.

👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.