The Hope Game, the Wish Game…and the Kiss That Didn’t Turn Him into a Prince

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They say love is blind, but in reality, love isn’t blind...dopamine is.

So many marriages that are now full of chaos and resentment had red flags clearly visible during dating. But the hope game kicked in:

“Maybe if I just love him a little more...”

“Maybe if I give her time, she’ll change...”

“Maybe if I kiss the frog long enough, the prince in him will finally come out...”

But the truth is: Not every frog is a prince in disguise, and not every issue is a phase.

Sometimes it’s not immaturity, 

it’s personality. 
Sometimes it’s not just a bad day, 
it’s bad character. 
Sometimes it’s not “growing pains,” 
it’s the real version of who they are.

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God doesn’t want us to walk by sightlessness

According to 2 Corinthians 5:7, scripture calls us to walk by faith, yes! BUT not by foolishness. 
God gave you eyes. Use them. 
He gave you discernment. Lean into it.

The Bible says in Proverbs 14:15 “The simple believe anything, but the prudent give thought to their steps.”

Prudence is not paranoia. 
It’s prayerful observation. 
It’s acknowledging the difference between loving someone and excusing destructive patterns.

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Those Chemicals Can’t Be Trusted

Dopamine. 
Serotonin. 

Vasopressin.

Beautiful brain chemicals...God designed them. 
But they’re not a substitute for discernment. 
When they’re in charge, your standards start shape-shifting.

Red becomes pink.
Loud becomes tolerable.
Boundaries become blurry.

But your emotions don’t get to pick your spouse. 
You do. 
And one day, when the butterflies fly away and the music fades, you’ll live with what you chose.

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Let love open your eyes, not shut them

Jesus never taught love as blindness. 
He loved people deeply...but never foolishly.
He loved Peter, but rebuked him.
He loved Judas, but wasn’t shocked by betrayal.
He loved the woman at the well, enough to tell her the truth.

Love tells the truth. 

Love sees the truth. 

Love responds to the truth.

So open your eyes. Not just to see who they are, but to see who you are.
You are worth choosing with clarity, not confusion.
You are worth being loved with intention, not indecision.

You are worth the kind of love that doesn’t need convincing.

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It's better to wait a little longer and get it right.

You’re not being picky...you’re being prudent.

You’re not delaying love...you’re deciding wisely.

And if you’re not sure whether to stay or let go…ask yourself:

If I saw this behavior in my future son-in-law or daughter-in-law, would I smile...or pray for my child to be delivered from the so-called love?

That answer may be all the clarity you need.

👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.