"First you will see signs…
then you will see wonders.”
It's usually said after the fact.
After things have gone wrong.
After the damage is done.
After someone is sitting there asking,
“How did I even get here?”
But the truth behind that phrase is uncomfortable.
You didn’t just arrive there.
You were led there.
There were signs.
They might not have been loud...
But they were there.
A pattern that was brushed off.
A tone that was explained away.
A behavior that was minimized.
Not because you didn’t see it.
But because you didn’t want to call it what it was.
Until it becomes a "wonder" in marriage.
Because nothing just appears out of nowhere.
Nothing is a jack-in-a-box.
That anger didn’t just start.
The unfaithfulness didn't just appear out of nowhere.
That distance didn’t just happen.
That pattern didn’t just form overnight.
There were signs.
But here’s what we often do.
We negotiate with what we should confront.
We excuse what we should question.
We tolerate what we should address.
“Maybe it’s not that serious.”
“Maybe it will change.”
“Maybe I’m overthinking.”
And slowly...
what was once a sign...
becomes a 'wonder', a situation.
Proverbs 27:12 says,
“The prudent see danger and take refuge,
but the simple keep going and pay the penalty.”
See danger.
Not ignore it.
Not explain it away.
See it.
Because wisdom doesn’t wait for things to get worse
before it responds.
It's easy to think about this in hindsight.
It’s harder to apply it in the present.
Think about it...as a single person that's dating:
Are there signs you’re ignoring right now?
In how you both communicate?
In how conflict is handled?
In a feeling of unease about the relationship?
In what is consistently avoided?
Because signs are usually consistent.
And consistency is what turns small things
into defining patterns.
Ecclesiastes 10:1 says,
“Dead flies putrefy the perfumer’s ointment; and cause it to give off a foul odor...”
Small things.
But over time...
they change everything.
I am not saying you should become paranoid.
I am simply saying be aware.
Because awareness gives you a chance...
to address things early.
To ask better questions.
To have necessary conversations.
To make adjustments before things harden.
And here’s the part we don’t like.
Sometimes...
we saw it.
We knew it.
But we chose to move forward anyway.
Not because we're foolish.
But because hope can be louder than truth
when wewant something to work.
So this is not about blame.
It’s about responsibility.
Because marriage doesn’t just reveal problems.
It amplifies what was already there.
So if you don’t pay attention to the signs...
don’t be surprised by the wonder.
The question is simple.
Are you paying attention...
or are you postponing reality?
Because what you address early
doesn’t have to become something you explain later.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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