Ever been on a merry-go-round?
Or one of those rides that spins just enough to make you laugh… and slightly question your life choices?
There’s a moment on those rides.
Right after the initial hesitation.
When something breaks loose.
You laugh.
Not the polite kind.
The kind you didn’t plan.
The kind that feels… younger.
Even the most serious person can’t hold it together for long.
Which is probably why people say,
“There’s a child in all of us.”
Not childish.
Childlike.
That part of you that still knows how to feel wonder.
How to be silly without overthinking it.
How to be present… without managing the moment.
Life doesn’t remove that part.
It just buries it.
Under responsibilities.
Schedules.
Expectations.
Bills.
And if you’re not careful…
it stays buried.
Now bring that into marriage.
Because many marriages are functional.
They work.
Things get done.
Roles are played.
Responsibilities are handled.
But something is missing.
Not love.
Lightness.
The kind that laughs easily.
Plays freely.
Connects without an agenda.
The kind that says,
“I enjoy you… not just what we’re building.”
And the truth is:
That version of you doesn’t show up everywhere.
It shows up ONLY where it feels safe.
Safe to be a little unfiltered.
Safe to not perform.
Safe to not have it all together.
So picture this.
What if your marriage became that space?
Not just a place for responsibility…
but a place for release.
Where joy is not accidental.
Play is not awkward.
Laughter is not rare.
Proverbs 17:22 says,
“A cheerful heart is good medicine...”
Not a luxury.
A cheerful heart is medicine.
Which means joy is not extra.
It’s necessary.
So how do you cultivate that?
Not by scheduling “fun” like a task.
But by allowing space for it.
You put your guard down.
A little.
You stop taking every moment so seriously.
You create room for moments that don’t have a purpose…
other than connection.
You laugh at things that don’t matter.
You revisit what once made you feel alive together.
You choose presence over performance.
And sometimes...
you go on the ride.
Even if it feels unnecessary.
Ecclesiastes 9:9 reminds us to,
“Enjoy life with the one you love…”
Not just build... because that is what most of us do.
Enjoy.
Because marriage is not just about surviving life together.
It’s about experiencing it.
So I ask this simple question.
When was the last time your marriage felt… light?
Not perfect.
Not planned.
Just… free.
Because that part of you is still there.
And it’s waiting for a space safe enough to come out.
Maybe…
your marriage can be that place.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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