We all know that.
At least in theory.
But in the middle of a disagreement?
It doesn’t feel that way.
It feels clear.
Our interpretation makes sense.
Our tone feels justified.
Oour reaction feels necessary.
So we move quickly.
We respond.
We defend.
We explain.
Not pausing long enough to consider...
“What if I’m wrong here?”
Not completely wrong.
But maybe wrong in how we heard it.
Wrong in how we delivered it.
Wrong in how we reacted to it.
And that pause?
It matters 100%.
Because the moment we allow for the possibility that we might be off...
we soften.
Just a little.
We listen differently.
We respond with less edge.
We stop trying to win... and start trying to understand.
The Bible says in Proverbs 18:17,
“The first to present his case seems right... until another comes forward and questions him.”
That verse is almost uncomfortable.
Because it suggests something simple:
We can sound right...
and still be wrong.
Now let's take that into marriage.
Imagine carrying this quiet awareness into every conversation:
“I may not be seeing this fully.”
It doesn’t make us weak.
It makes us careful.
And even when we are right...
there’s another layer.
Remembering that we haven’t always been.
That there were times we misunderstood too.
Times we overreacted too.
Times we needed grace too.
And that memory?
It humbles us... or at least, it should.
Colossians 3:13 says,
“Bear with each other and forgive one another... forgive as the Lord forgave you.”
Not because the other person always deserves it.
But because we’ve needed it too.
That’s what this mindset does.
It stretches our patience.
It slows our response.
It makes room for grace.
And grace has a way of stopping things early.
Before they escalate.
Before they harden.
Before they turn into something bigger than they needed to be.
Because most issues in marriage don’t explode overnight.
They grow.
But humility... catches things early.
It asks the question others avoid:
“Could I be part of the problem here?”
And that question?
It nips things in the bud.
It makes forgiveness easier.
Not forced or delayed.
Just... easier.
Because we’re no longer standing on a pedestal of being right.
We’re standing on the reality of being human.
And two people who understand that...
tend to fight differently.
Less about proving.
More about resolving.
Less about winning.
More about keeping what matters intact.
So maybe it's just a small shift.
Not “I’m wrong.”
Just...
“I might be.”
And that might be enough
to change how everything unfolds.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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