Sometimes, a Healthy Marriage Has to Pass Gas

January 7th was National Pass Gas Day in the U.S.

Ewww… right?

Nobody wants to talk about it.

Nobody wants to be around it.

And yet… it’s a completely normal and healthy bodily function.

In fact, doctors will tell you it:

• Relieves bloating and abdominal pain
• Indicates a healthy gut and diet
• Serves as a health indicator
• Promotes colon health

Uncomfortable? Yes.

Necessary? Also yes.

And that got me thinking about marriage.

Healthy marriages have moments that feel… gross

From a couple’s perspective, staying healthy doesn’t always look pretty.

There are conversations that feel awkward.

Admissions that smell unpleasant.

Truths that make the room uncomfortable.

But avoiding them doesn’t make the marriage healthier.

It just creates pressure.

Just like the body, when things aren’t released, discomfort builds.

Eventually, it hurts.

Not everything that’s healthy feels good

In marriage, there are things we’d rather hold in:

• Unspoken resentment
• Lingering disappointment
• Unmet expectations
• Financial tension
• Emotional fatigue
• Hard truths about habits, priorities, or patterns

They don’t feel romantic to talk about.

They don’t feel “nice.”

But they are necessary.

The Bible encourages us, in Ephesians 4:15,  to: “Speak the truth in love.”

Notice it doesn’t say only speak what’s pleasant.

It says speak what’s true, but with care.

Passing gas isn’t rude...holding it forever is harmful

A marriage that never addresses tension isn’t peaceful.

It’s pressurized.

And pressure doesn’t disappear on its own.

It leaks.

It erupts.

It damages intimacy.

Healthy couples learn how to:

• Address issues early
• Laugh through awkwardness
• Be honest without cruelty
• Clear the air regularly

Not to embarrass each other...

but to protect the relationship.

So here’s the real question

What “gas” do you need to pass this year to keep your marriage healthy?

Is it:

• A hard conversation you’ve been postponing?
• A boundary that needs to be set?
• An apology you’ve delayed?
• A pattern that needs to be named?
• A need that hasn’t been voiced?

It may feel awkward.

It may not smell great in the moment.

But relief usually follows honesty.

Because health isn’t about comfort

It’s about function.

Flow.

Freedom.

A healthy marriage isn’t one where nothing uncomfortable ever happens.

It’s one where uncomfortable things don’t get trapped.

👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.

Sometimes, love looks like clearing the air...even when it’s awkward.