(It's day 3 of talking about the topic...the responses keep birthing new angles and perspectives)
It’s wild how easy it is to take for granted what we once called a blessing.
The spouse we once prayed for.
The person who made our heart race.
The one we couldn’t stop texting…
who made us smile for no reason…
who we once told, “I can’t believe I get to do life with you.”
Now?
We barely look up when they walk in.
We don’t notice when they’re trying.
We criticize more than we appreciate.
We don’t even say thank you anymore...not because we’re ungrateful, but because we’ve gotten used to the gift.
It’s not that they’ve stopped being valuable.
It’s that we’ve stopped seeing it.
Yes, it's familiarity that we have been talking about for days now.
It makes us lazy.
It makes us forget.
It makes us act like presence is a promise and effort is automatic.
But the truth is: no one wants to be tolerated.
No one wants to be the background noise in their own home.
No one wants to feel invisible in the place they give their all to.
And sometimes, when someone feels taken for granted long enough, they stop trying.
Not out of revenge. Just…exhaustion.
That’s why we’re reminded in Proverbs 5:18 to “rejoice in the wife of your youth.” It doesn’t say “endure her” or “manage him.”
It says rejoice.
Celebrate.
Appreciate.
Keep the awe alive.
So here’s the question:
Are you taking your spouse for granted…or treasuring them daily?
When was the last time you looked at them with fresh eyes?
When was the last time you thanked them for being who they are?
When was the last time you chose to admire, not just analyze?
Sometimes, the difference between a “meh” marriage and a meaningful one is this simple choice: To treat your spouse like they still matter.
Like they still move you.
Like they’re still worth the effort.
Not because they’re perfect. But because they’re yours.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍 Marriage Works.
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2 comments:
Hello,
This caption is so catchy, 'taken for granted',
I will gladly share my experience here since its a Christian platform. I recently separated from my the father of my children.
After 23 years of forgiving, forbearance....I suddenly realised that indeed it was a case of being taken for granted. I was carrying the financial responsibilities of the family. I was surrounded by amazing family and friends. They are ever willing to sacrifice for me and support me. This guy, the father of my children was never willing to go this extra mile because 'Nike ' will always run to the rescue.
Marriage like our relationship with God is a two way thing, everyone needs to play their part..
I woke up one day and told him to leave the house, afterall I paid for the apartment. That was it!
Wow! Thanks for sharing. Marriage works better when we realize we CANNOT take our spouses for granted just because we believe they ain't going nowhere. It takes TWO to build. There are times one may be weak, but no single person can be on the PERMANENT position of fixing the marriage. They will get tired at some point. The Bible says in Eccl 4 - "Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up"
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