Are You Their Ideal…or Just Looking for One?

We’ve all heard someone say,

“I’m just waiting for the right one…”
“The one God has for me…”
“I have standards…”
“I know what I want in a man/woman…”

But I saw a post recently and it made me think deep:
“Will your ideal person also consider you ideal—or are you just refurbished material looking for a naive taker to scam?”

Ouch.

But let’s sit with that for a second.

Everyone has a picture of who they want.
But not many stop to ask: Am I the kind of person they would even be praying for?

We want:

• A spouse that communicates…however, we shut down when there’s conflict.
• Someone spiritual…while our spiritual life has cobwebs.
• Someone kind…but we’re rude to waiters and roll our eyes during disagreements.
• Someone who’s healed…when we haven’t done the hard work of healing ourselves.

Truth is, you attract what you are, not what you say you want.
You might impress someone with your looks, your car, your swag, your talk…
…but it’s your character that will determine if you stay ideal in their eyes.

This isn’t about perfection. 
No one’s perfect.

But being "ready" for marriage isn’t about crossing off someone else's checklist.
It’s about doing the inner work to become a good partner.

Jesus said, in Matthew 7:16, “You will know them by their fruit.” 

Not by their looks. 
Not by their vibes. 
Not even by their potential.
By. Their. Fruit.

That means the work must go deeper than your outfit, your job title, or your proposal speech.What fruit would someone find if they dated or married you today?

It’s time we stopped praying only for a "Proverbs 31 woman" or a "Job 29 man" (Someone who's worked on themself, so we can come harvest)
…and asked God to make us that kind of person.

While looking for someone, you should also become someone who would be a blessing to marry.

👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍 Marriage Works.