The Bible says in Titus 2:3-5 "Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good. These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God."
This scripture always humbles me.
It assumes something many modern marriages quietly ignore:
Some things are not discovered.
They are taught.
From experience.
From scars.
From seasons survived.
Older women teaching younger women.
Not just recipes.
Not just childcare.
But love.
Self-control.
Kindness.
Home stewardship.
Relational wisdom.
Marriage was never meant to be figured out alone.
We celebrate independence so loudly that we sometimes silence inheritance.
There are things Google/AI cannot teach.
There are things podcasts cannot teach.
There are things only lived life can teach.
How to stay soft when life is hard.
How to disagree without dishonoring.
How to support without disappearing or losing oneself.
How to speak truth without wounding love.
Titus is not about older women policing younger women.
It is about older women protecting younger women.
Because experience sees danger early.
Experience recognizes patterns.
Experience knows what regret sounds like before it speaks.
Some wisdom is preventative.
Every wife needs a voice that can say:
- “I’ve been there.”
- “This matters.”
- “Slow down.”
- “Don’t throw that away.”
- “You will thank yourself later.”
Not because she is weak.
But because she is becoming.
We all are.
Marriage is not just two people growing.
It is two lineages colliding.
Two histories speaking.
Two futures being shaped.
Who is teaching her patience?
Who is teaching her discernment?
Who is reminding her that love is not just feeling… it is formation?
Submission to Christ often looks like submission to wisdom.
And wisdom usually has wrinkles.
Marriage does not only need romance.
It needs mentorship.
Because what is taught multiplies.
And what is modeled endures.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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