Praise George wrote this years ago, but it still rings true today:
“It is unfair, unjust for someone to work hard on improving him/herself, then you saunter into their lives recklessly, having a sense of entitlement, like you 'have a right to them.' You don't. If you are too lazy to work on yourself, the person who reflects your exact attitude will soon show up in your life.”
It may sting a little...because it’s 100% true.
We live in a world that wants results without refinement.
We pray for a “finished product” in a partner while offering our “work in progress” selves in return.
We demand excellence but excuse our own mediocrity.
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Theere is something called the Law of Reflection.
We don’t attract what we want.
We attract what we are.
If you’re inconsistent, you’ll likely meet someone who mirrors that inconsistency.
If you’re emotionally unavailable, you’ll attract someone who only wants your body, not your heart.
If you refuse accountability, you’ll meet someone who refuses growth.
The Bible says in Galatians 6:7 (NIV) “Do not be deceived: God cannot be mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”
That applies to relationships too.
You can’t plant irresponsibility and expect commitment.
You can’t sow laziness and reap loyalty.
You might get lucky for a while...but sooner or later, life balances the equation.
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Preparation Protects
It’s unfair to show up in someone’s life expecting to benefit from their discipline when you’ve invested nothing in your own.
It’s like demanding to eat at a restaurant you never paid for...and then criticizing the chef.
You want a stable partner, but are you emotionally steady?
You want a godly man, but are you growing spiritually?
You want a loving woman, but are you patient, gentle, and teachable?
Preparation doesn’t make you perfect...it makes you ready.
And readiness isn’t proven by talk; it’s revealed by transformation.
Proverbs 24:27 (NLT) reminds us, “Do your planning and prepare your fields before building your house.”
Don’t start praying for a spouse until you’ve let God deal with your foundation.
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If God were to send you you...would you be ready for it?
Would you be proud of what you see?
Would you still want to marry yourself?
That’s not meant to shame you...it’s meant to sharpen you.
Because the moment you start working on yourself, you automatically begin attracting people who are doing the same.
And that’s where healthy love begins...not in fantasy, but in formation.
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So before you pray for “the right person,”
pray to become the right person.
Because as Praise George said, the person who reflects your exact attitude will eventually show up.
May what they reflect look like growth, humility, purpose, and grace.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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