Under a video of an acapella group singing beautifully, I saw a comment that saddened me:
“Yes, I know say the first guy go dey cheat if we marry, but no problem, I go marry am like dat.”
A beautiful song…and a heartbreaking mindset.
Reminded me of a story back when I was in the University...this girl was being "chased" by a supposedly cool guy that was a known chronic womanizer. Her friends warned her that the guy already had a hundred girls. Her response: "I don't mind being number 101. It will be an honor to have my heart broken by him."
Ridiculous...right?
We’ve gotten so used to pain that we now plan around it.
We expect disappointment.
We prepare for betrayal.
We make peace with brokenness (not the spiritual one)...just to say we have someone.
And the saddest part?
It sounds normal now.
We no longer dream of faithfulness; we just hope the cheating won’t be public.
We no longer pray for partnership; we just aim for “manageable.”
We’re trying to survive relationships that were meant to thrive.
But marriage wasn’t designed for survival. It was built for covenant.
And covenant demands hope...not resignation.
The Bible says in Romans 5:5 (NIV)
“And hope does not disappoint us, because God’s love has been poured out into our hearts through the Holy Spirit.”
Hope doesn’t make you naive.
It makes you aligned with God’s design.
Because when you lower your expectations to match broken people, you stop giving God the chance to make you both whole.
Don’t settle for “he’ll cheat but I’ll manage.”
Don’t settle for “she’ll disrespect me but I’ll cope.”
That’s not love. That’s fear camouflaging as wisdom.
You can’t build covenant with a survival mindset.
And you can’t prepare for peace by expecting pain.
If God calls marriage His reflection, then it’s worth believing for His kind of love...one that endures, restores, and remains faithful.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍Marriage Works.
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