Apostle Paul said in 1 Corinthians 13 verse 11 “When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child; but when I became a man, I put away childish things.”
Molting.
It sounds strange, even a little unpleasant. But for crabs, it’s a normal, and necessary, part of growth.
Molting is the process where a crab sheds its old, hardened shell to make room for a bigger one. That tough exterior it once depended on becomes too tight, too restrictive.
Staying in it would mean staying stuck. So the crab has to go through a vulnerable, uncomfortable process to grow.
Marriage has a molting process too.
There are seasons where what used to work stops working.
What used to feel right starts feeling tight.
The version of you that fit perfectly in the first five years of marriage might feel outgrown by year ten.
That’s not failure.
That’s growth knocking.
Sadly, many couples resist it.
They settle into convenience.
They avoid the discomfort of change.
They keep wearing the same “shell”
same routines, same habits, same expectations...even though it no longer fits.
We say things like:
“This is just how I am.”
“This has always worked for us.”
“You knew I was like this when you married me.”
But what if God is calling you to shed what used to be normal so you can step into what’s necessary?
The early years of marriage may have been about learning to live together, building trust, and adjusting expectations. But later seasons may demand deeper patience.
New levels of sacrifice.
Emotional availability.
Parenting alignment.
Financial maturity.
Intimacy beyond the physical.
Spiritual oneness.
Each season stretches your capacity.
Each season asks for more than the last.
Each season needs a version of you that’s willing to grow.
That’s what Paul was saying in 1 Corinthians 13:11. Growth requires leaving behind what used to define us...not because it was wrong, but because we’re being called higher.
Maybe your marriage is in a molting season right now.
It feels tight.
Uncomfortable.
Vulnerable.
But maybe that’s not a sign that things are breaking down
Maybe it’s a sign that God is building you both up.
Don’t be afraid to outgrow what no longer fits.
Don’t cling to what’s familiar at the expense of what’s fruitful.
Let God walk you both through the growing pains.
Let love mature.
Let grace expand.
Let your marriage evolve.
Because just like the crab, if you refuse to molt, you refuse to grow.
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better.
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