WHEN IT’S ALWAYS THE OTHER PERSON

I saw a video on Instagram that made me pause. (Thanks Toyebi 😏)

A man was being interviewed on the street.

He said he would never marry again...because he had tried twice, and both marriages failed.

His reason?

“The women were bitter and lacked contentment.”

He moved on, he said, before they could “dump” him.

Not once did he hint at having any part to play in the breakdown of those marriages.

Not once did he ask himself if maybe, just maybe, he brought something to the table that poisoned the meal.

And then…it happened.

As he was talking, a woman walked past with a “big behind.”

Right in the middle of the interview, he lost his train of thought, turned his head, and blurted out, “Looku o, yeeparipa! Wetin be this?” (Implying: “OMG! This is massive!”)

Suddenly, the missing puzzle piece didn’t look so missing anymore.

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It’s amazing how many people walk out of a marriage, arms folded, convinced the other person is the ONLY reason it fell apart.

They blame...

They point fingers...

They rewrite the story so they’re always the hero...or at least the victim.

But never the contributor...in any way.

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Jesus said in Matthew 7:5, “First take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.”

That’s not just about judgment...it’s about responsibility.

Because you can’t fix what you refuse to own.

And here’s the danger:

If you keep leaving every failed relationship convinced it was always them, you’ll never address what’s broken in you.

You’ll carry it into the next one...and the next...

Until you run out of “nexts.”

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Imagine if we all

Asked, “What part did I play?” before we blamed.

Prayed, “Lord, search me,” before we accused.

Owned our weakness before trying to fix our spouse’s.

Marriage isn’t about proving you’re blameless.

It’s about being humble enough to admit when you’re not.

Because the truth is...sometimes the reason we keep seeing the same results isn’t because we keep finding the wrong person

...it’s because we keep bringing the same version of ourselves.

👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better.💍 Marriage Works.