We all want the harvest.
The laughter, the peace, the inside jokes.
The quiet knowing.
The shared rhythm.
The oneness
The warmth that makes you whisper, “This is home.”
But the truth is, a beautiful, wonderful marriage isn't a miracle.
It’s a harvest.
And harvests don’t just appear...they are grown.
From seed.
From soil.
From sweat.
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It all starts with two sowers.
Not one person doing all the work while the other just receives.
Not one person constantly forgiving, praying, adjusting, while the other remains rigid.
It takes two sowers.
Two willing hearts.
Two sets of hands working...in the dirt.
The Bible says in Galatians 6 verse 7 “Don’t be deceived: God is not mocked. A man reaps what he sows.”
The harvest you see in other marriages didn’t fall from the sky.
It came from what they sowed over time.
And you will reap, not what you admire, but what you sow.
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So, what seeds are you planting?
- Words that build up...or tear down?
- Encouragement...or silent contempt?
- Patience...or pressure?
- Time and attention, all of you...or leftovers?
Sometimes we want fruit we never planted.
We want peace when we've sown pride.
We want intimacy where we've sown criticism.
We want respect but we planted sarcasm.
Marriage doesn’t grow by mere desire.
It grows by discipline.
By sowing the right seeds...even when the feelings aren’t there yet.
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Let’s talk about soil.
Jesus spoke about different kinds of soil in Matthew 13.
Some hearts are hard.
Some are shallow.
Some are choked with distractions.
And some are fertile...ready to receive and multiply.
What kind of soil is your marriage planted in?
Because even good seed won’t grow in bad soil.
It needs the right environment.
A home where people are given time to be and become.
Where forgiveness flows freely.
Where love isn’t earned...it’s given.
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And then there’s atmosphere.
Every harvest needs sunlight, water, space to breathe.
In marriage, that looks like:
Encouragement that warms. (Gracious words are a honeycomb, sweet to the soul and healing to the bones - Proverbs 16:24)
Grace that rains gently.
Boundaries that protect. (Protect the vine Song of Solomon 2:15)
Time together that nurtures connection.
You can’t microwave fruit.
You can't shortcut maturity.
But if you stay faithful in the planting, if you guard the soil and keep sowing, you’ll look up one day and see that something beautiful has grown.
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Don’t envy someone else’s harvest.
Ask about their planting season.
Their pruning.
Their patience.
Their persistence.
Then ask yourself:
What am I sowing today…that I will see tomorrow?
Is that what I would like to see?
Because marriage won’t give you what you wish for.
It’ll give you what you work for...together.
The Bible says in Galatians 6 verse 9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.”
👣 Be Better. 💛 Love Better. 🙌🏾 Do Better. 💍 Marriage Works.
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