If your honest answer is yes...no matter how small...then there’s your cue: appreciate them.
See, it’s easy to get consumed by what your partner lacks. The things they haven’t figured out, the habits that irritate you, the flaws that make you roll your eyes or mumble under your breath. Marriage can slowly turn into a scoreboard of weaknesses… tallying everything except the good.
But hear this—there is no way you married someone with zero good in them. That’s not even scriptural.
James 1:17 says "Every good and perfect gift is from above", and like it or not, your spouse is part of that gift package. Imperfect, yes, BUT carrying a deposit of good from heaven.
The problem? We stop looking for it.
We forget that what you appreciate…appreciates. Gratitude multiplies what you focus on. The ‘little’ you keep ignoring might just be the seed that could grow; if only you watered it with appreciation.
Start small if you have to.
Appreciate the way they make the kids laugh.
Appreciate how they show up, imperfectly, awkwardly...but they show up.
Appreciate their effort, their sacrifices, their presence.
The Bible says, “Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure…if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.” (Philippians 4:8)
Yes, your marriage needs that.
Yes, your spouse deserves that.
Shift your meditation. Shift your gaze.
Stop letting weakness become the only thing you see.
Start seeing strength, even if it’s wrapped in weakness.
And here’s the secret...the more you see, the more you’ll have to see.
Water it, Nurture it, Bless it...until it blossoms into everything God intended.
Appreciate. It grows. Every time.
#BeBetter #LoveBetter #DoBetter #MarriageWorks
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