Don’t Abuse the Access

Not too long ago, a big Nigerian artist invited an upcoming artist to a dinner in the U.S.

He gifted him expensive shoes, showed him honor, and gave him access many would dream of.
The upcoming artist was overjoyed...he even went on a live video, bubbling with gratitude.

But just a few days later…
He was back on live video again...this time dragging the big artist for not showing up to a studio session he had hoped would happen.

What changed?
Nothing really.
Except expectation.
And perhaps… an abuse of access.

In the ministry of men, access is a gift.
It’s not a right.
It’s not a shortcut.
And it’s not a green light to dump everything on someone just because you can reach them.

Some doors open to bless you...but close when you rush in, demanding more than the relationship can hold.

Access must be stewarded, not exploited.

Scripture is full of wisdom here:

• Joseph didn’t beg Pharaoh for a favor the day he interpreted a dream. He waited until the relationship matured and trust was built. (Genesis 41)
• Esther didn’t storm the king’s courts with a demand. She fasted, prayed, and discerned timing before making her request. (Esther 5)
• Even Jesus said, in Matthew 7 verse 6 “Do not give dogs what is holy; and do not throw your pearls before pigs…” because value must be matched with understanding.

Some of us are praying for divine connections and open doors...but here’s the truth:

God won’t give you access you’re not mature enough to manage.

Not every mentor is ready to hear all your problems on day one.
Not every helper is called to carry your full load.
Some relationships need time, discernment, and nurturing before they can bear the weight of your expectations.

The wise thing to do:

• Steward access with honor.
• Discern timing before making a request.
• Don’t drag the door that once blessed you.
• And most importantly, let gratitude go ahead of expectation.

Proverbs 25:17 (MSG) says it best:
“And when you find a friend... don’t outwear your welcome; show up at all hours and he’ll get fed up.”

Don’t just pray for open doors...pray for the wisdom to walk through them well.

Be Better. Love Better. Do Better.